Rumours are sometimes like a game of Broken Telephone. Remember that game. The first player whispers something to the next player. Each player successively whispers what that player believes he or she heard to the next. The last player announces the statement to the entire group.
I was chatting with an acquaintance to which I thought was just a casual conversation, but when she was a bit too eager to hear the ‘juicy details’, my b!t3h radar went BEEP BEEP BEEP! You don’t know me like that. Trying to lean in close, speak barely above a whisper, and ask personal questions about a mutual friend. If you are so interested in knowing, ask her yourself! I tried to push her off politely and say “that’s not really any of my business so I don’t know”. The ‘My Business” is YOU dumba$$! Take a hint. Jeeze.
But, isn’t that how rumours get started. They start off innocently enough through chatting. Next thing you know, you are a two faced jerk who said so-and-so was doing this-and-that while wearing the ugliest everything. If you really want to know what the dealio is, ASK THE PERSON! And don’t twist my words to pass the time with your idle gossip to the local hood rat. And if someone is trying to drag you into the mud with them, ask yourself why are they asking/telling me this? What do they have to gain? Are they just starting drama? Misery loves company, and they are always looking for people to join them.
If you are the one being talked about, my suggestion is to act like that Simpsons episode where all the advertisements come to life. “Just don’t look. Just don’t look.” lol Do your THANG. Live your life. Dance like nobody’s looking. Haters are gonna hate. You can’t let them ruin your happiness.
As we become older, you would think this wouldn’t effect us. Not like when you are are teenager in high school. But, ever sit around at lunch with some people at work and the only conversation they bring to the table is the b.s. about other people? Or when you are on the GO Train/TTC and you stupidly forgot your ipod/mp3 player and your ears are assaulted with the gossipy clucks of a bunch of chicken heads? Even church folk talk people’s business.
I used to be friendly with a bunch a fun girls back in the day. We had a falling out, but c’est la vie. One thing I do remember is we don’t talk sh!t about each other to each other. If you have beef with someone in the group, then either keep it to yourself or go squash it with them. Of course it’s easier said then done. A friend talked garbage about me. Another friend told me. I was suspect about everything she said and did after that. Without trust, no type of relationship will survive. Ours didn’t.
I guess mom was right. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I do caveate all my gossip with “I’m just sayin’ ” LOL
Rumours by Timex Social Club:
Look at all these rumors-running me everyday-
I just need some time-some time to get away from-
from all these rumors I can’t take it no more-my best friend say did you
hear the one about me and the girl next door?-
How do rumors get started?-they’re started by the jealous people and- they
get mad about somthin’ they had, now somebody else is holdin’- They tell
me that temptation is very hard to resist- these wicked women , oohh they
just persist- maybe you think it’s cute , but girl I’m not impressed-I tell
you one time only with my business please don’t mess–
Did you hear the one about susan?-some say she’s much too loose- that
came straight from a guy who claims he’s drinkin’ her juice- Did you hear the
one about Michael? – Some say he must be gay- I tried to argue but they said
if he were straight he would’nt move that way- Did you hear the one about
Tina? – some say she’s just a tease- in a camisole she’s six feet tall
she’ll knock you to you knees..
I can’t go no place without somebody pointin’ a finger- I can’t show my
face cuz when it comes to rumors I’m a dead ringer- I’ll think I’ll
write my congressman and tell him to pass a bill- the next time they catch
somebody started rumors-shoot to kill!–